How do I know if I have a sex addiction? I ask this because I have been known to be promiscuous. I sleep around with different women. I have a history of mistreating them; disregarding their emotions. I make them get emotionally attached to me, and before long, I do something to push them away. Some come back, some are gone forever. I won't get into all the details about what I've done with these women that have pushed them to HATE me, but I will say that the hatred is justifiable. It's amazing the hurt and distrust I can create in someone and show little no concern about anything beyond my own orgasm. Why do I act this way? A friend of mine told me I was addicted to sex. But that doesn't make any sense. Sex isn't a drug, or alcohol, or nicotine. How can I be addicted to it? I can't even look at myself in the mirror anymore. I'm disgusted. I wanna run off into the wilderness or somewhere far far away. How can I get pass this inability to be faithful to one woman, or at least practice safer habits? I ain't shit. And the more I analyze things I've done recently, the more apparent that fact becomes. I'm almost certain there is no mending that can be done with the friend/relationships I have damaged. But how can I make a change to ensure that I don't continue with this same despicable behavior going forward? If I am a sex addict, where do I get help? Because I know I NEED IT.
Signed,
So Ashamed
Dear So Ashamed,
This particular topic is a little difficult for me to advise you on; thus I researched some information that may prove helpful to you. But first, you need to be well aware of the error in your ways. Speaking as a man that has also had quite a few women scream I HATE YOU to him before, it's very unbecoming as a "MAN" to continue to treat women the way you have been. I'm not sure if you have some kind of emotional issue, or perhaps you experienced a psychological trauma that mentally makes you disregard anything and everyone except for yourself. As far as sexual addictions, here is some information I found. Analyze and see if anything you read sounds familiar about your character.
1. WHAT IS SEX ADDICTION?
Sex addiction is a way some people medicate their feelings and/or cope with their stresses to the degree that their sexual behavior becomes their major coping mechanism for stresses in their life. The individual often can not stop this sexual behavior for any great length of time by themselves. The sex addict spends a lot of time in the pursuit of his or her sexual behavior/fantasy or they may have a binge of sexual behaviors.
2. WHY DO PEOPLE BECOME SEXUALLY ADDICTED?
This is different for every sex addict but generally speaking there are biological, psychological, and spiritual reasons. The following is a short explanation of each reason why someone can become a sex addict. The biological addict is someone who has conditioned their body to receive endorphins and enkephlines (brain chemicals) primarily through reinforcing a fantasy state with the ejaculation that provides these chemicals to their brain. Psychologically, the need to medicate or escape physical, emotional or sexual abuse can demand a substance, the early addict finds the sex medicine usually before alcohol or drugs. Spiritually, a person is filling up the God hole in them with their sexual addiction. The addiction is their spirituality, it comforts them, celebrates them and is always available and present. Then there is the sex addict who can be two or even three of the above reasons. This is why a specialist in sex addiction is the best route for recovery with sex addiction.
Now, there is a lot more information where this came from. I think you should take a moment out of your day and throughly read through the rest of this information. For the entire breakdown of Sexual Addiction, click here. Don't hesitate to call the number provided either. Hope the information helps and you're able to change your ways for the better. Good luck.
-A Fly Guy
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