Ask A Fly Guy - #1

So, earlier this week I sent out emails to my contacts and folk on myspace about this new section of my blog called ASK A FLY GUY. It's my new advice column, or basically just an opportunity for people I know and don't know, to ask for my insight, prospectus, and/or opinion on different situations. The identities of those who ask for advice will remain anonymous. It took a few days but I have finally gotten the first request for some advice. I guess it took a while for someone to welcome the idea of coming to me for advice. I mean, who the hell am I, right? Anyway, here is the first one. The cherry is popped.

Dear Fly Guy,

I have a friend of 10 years that has become sussessful in her own eyes. lately she speaks to me as if shes my teacher/counselor. she contradicts my every word,even if the subject is as simple as the time i take a shower. today we argued again, and i stated that one of her daily routines with her child was lazy.this comment obviously hurt her really really badly because hours later shes still sending 30 word texts. should i stand by my opinion or like she says...evaluate the insult and apologize?

Signed.
Sweet & Friendly

Dear Sweet & Friendly,

First let me say, a friendship that has sustained for a decade is definitely a rarity, especially when the friendship is between two adult women. Kudos on that. Now, success can be empowering to some and justification for a "power trip" to others. I do not think CONTRADICTION is the word you meant to use to describe what she does (given the context of your dilemma). What your friend is doing is giving a REBUTTAL for everything you say. Now she is an adult, as you are so you should not hold the fact that she has an opposing opinion to things you do and say against her. This woman doesn't pay your rent (I assume) or contribute monetarily or emotionally to your daily life in anyway. Her opinions should not cause that much of a friction. Ask yourself if you agree with everything she says or feels. Also, was the comment you made about her daily routines made with malicious intent. Was it your goal to hurt her feelings? If so, it seems you were successful. Sometimes, our anger gets the better of us and we say things we often regret later. In my opinion, you should call your friend (not text) and have a mature discussion about the whole situation, in a calm manner. Explain to her how her oppositions make you feel. Feel out her response before you start apologizing. Neither of you should let PRIDE become a cancer to what has the makings of a life-long friendship.